Every relationship expert will encourage you to talk to your partner about everything, which is actually the best way of letting your partner know how you feel. It is like giving report on a job. If you don’t give report to your superiors at work, how will they know of your improvement or challenges you are facing on the task given to you.
Though relationship
report (feeling) is different from a job report knowing that there is a formal
way of reporting the latter.
In relationship
report (feeling), understanding the human emotional changes is vital. You have
a partner who is stressed out from work and here you are talking about
soccer-boring. Though you might be excited about telling your partner about the
games especially when your favorite team won the game. But before you let the
cat out of the bag, take a closer look at their emotions. Are they in the mood
of hearing your exciting after match cementation?
Maybe you just had
a new hairdo and you are in a haste to show it off to your partner who is deep
in thought of his career. You definitely will not get the best of response as
expected. This is why you must take a quick survey of your partners’ emotions
before expressing your feelings.
Here is the list of how to achieve healthy
relationship through better communication
Careful listening
is very important in relationships. Communication has to do with connection. One
of the ways your partner will know you are listening to them is by been active
in your listening. As simple as it sounds, many cannot listen to their spouse
actively. They engage in other things while their partner is talking. This will
break the flow of communication. They might even withdraw and talk to your
neighbor when next they need a listening ear. Simply giving a nod, a smile,
body gesture or little sentences could do the job and become a hero for your
spouse. What most people need when they express their feelings is someone who
listens, active and understands what they are saying. Only agree you understand
if you truly do because your partner could ask for your opinion that moment and
you know what will happen if they realize you were just playing some I
understand trick on them. If you do not understand at any point, be sure to ask
for permission ‘excuse me please, I don’t understand this part’. If you do not
agree on the situation or the way they handled a situation, let them finish
talking before you express any form of disagreement. This means you respect
their view on the situation and you are willing to help out.
2- Ask questions
Asking questions is a quick
way to learn new things. Don’t assume you know all. Ask your partner questions
as regards anything. The wise keep asking questions and will continue to do so.
Achieving better communication means asking questions.
3- Avoid
serious talks
Hey this doesn’t mean you won’t
serious issues through. Create opportunity to talk about other things aside how
to make the relationship work and so on and just sit and talk about a TV show
or series you both follow. Tell your partner about the episode they missed. You
could talk about the funny TV show you watched while your partner was away.
These little talks have a way of connecting our emotions one to another making
us firmly bonded.
4- Share
the moments
It is normal we
feel closer to people we share our moments with. It is also better if those we
share our moments with have similar moments too. Naturally, we will want to be
around such person because of the similarities we share. Couples with job
similarities enjoy this most as each partner talks about how their day went,
the challenges they had and how they were able to overcome the challenges, their
partner will easily be carried along and provide more suggestions against
similar challenge in the future. Partners with no job similarity will have to
be good listeners and show interest in your partners’ career to enjoy the
moments shared. Here asking reasonable questions will be handy. Like how did
you manage your unresponsive clients today? How were sales today? Intimacy
could be initiated from moments shared.
5- Hang
outs
This is another
important way of achieving healthy relationship. Hang out from time to time. Go
somewhere of interest together. Sit close to each other. Let there be body
contact. It helps to communicate our inner thoughts.
6- Talk
and listen
This could be
tricky. What is the use of all the above if you cannot talk and then listen to
the response of your partner. Communication is a two way thing. You talk and
then you listen. You say something and then you listen to the reply. Some
people get it all wrong here. They just keep talking all day to themselves and
then complain their partner doesn’t discuss with them. How will they discuss
when you don’t allow them air their voice. It is good to talk about yourself
but carry your partner along. That way you will enjoy conversation.
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How to Communicate Better For Healthy Relationship
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