Do you know that a man’s greatest need is respect? Many women are guilty of this. Though it might be occasional, but disrespect is disrespect.
If a woman is willing to learn to
respect her significant other when he is not perfect, he will definitely open
up to her and be ready to change for best. Unfortunately, most women are
willing to show respect, but they want their other half to be worthy of it and that
is not always the case.
Respect is too great a need for a man to
have it come and go based on his performance.
Here
are the things women do to disrespect their husband without knowing
1. Interrupting your husband
One of the easiest ways to let someone
know that you don’t care about what they are saying is to interrupt them (rudely).
Most ladies tend to do this without thinking. It comes like a spark especially
when you are stressed out. This is a serious issue because it shows a level of
unconscious self-interest. This can lead to communication breakdown which will
eventually lead to relationship anxiety.
2. Emotional manipulation
There is a difference in what you are saying
to help your marriage and what you are saying to control your marriage. No man
wants to be controlled. Nobody says you should not express your feelings about
a thing, just be true about them. Some emotional manipulation women use to
control their significant other includes: Mood swings (it is fine, I don’t really
care, the silent treatment, crying for attention etc. soon
he will notice and
careless.
3. Using aggression
Human anger is destructive
and using aggression to respond to a fight is not supper healthy. Using aggression
to respond could also mean his presence or words irritates you badly. Let us be
slow to anger
4. Undermining your husband
With reference to (1) above, undermining your husband is really not healthy. You undermine his emotions by manipulation, you undermine his temperament with aggression. Unfortunately, this is so real in a lot of marriages and dear you are really looking for trouble with your hands.
You teach your children their father is
not competent hence deserve no respect when you undermine him in front of them.
You teach your children to consciously disrespect him when you frequently
overrule his decisions in their presence. Soon, your children will react same way
to you and eventually bring discord and conflict into your home. Lots of
women think they are doing the right thing by devaluing their husband’s words.
5. Holding grudges against your husband
It is very
easy to throw past failures at your husbands face when he upset you. the level
at which this is done vary from woman to woman. What is the point throwing back
past mistakes of your husband right in his face. An ongoing issue should be
resolved promptly and left behind as soon as possible and if it is a past issue
that has been resolved, let it die.
6. Excluding
him in decisions
So many wives
are good at this. Scheduling events little or not without your husbands consent
means you excluded him from that decision. You have to make deliberate effort
to always include your husband in every decision. Note this is not about asking
permission rather it is about remembering to include him in discussions you
make; Personal inclusive.
7. Incomplete engagement in discussions
Women are
not the only ones who like to talk and want to be heard: men too. Women feel terrible
when they deserve full attention when they talk and you don’t give them. Men feel
same and may express it in a different way you wouldn’t like. Try to give as
much attention to your husband when he is discussing with you about his day or
work else he will feel you don’t just care about his whole life forgetting you
might be stressed out. If you cannot listen at the moment, let him know.
8. Comparing
your husband/marriages
Any marriage
without contentment is a time bomb waiting to explode. Men feel the need to fix things,
work harder, do all they can to ensure their marriage gets a boost when their
significant other display discontentment and they keep fixing until they feel
like there is nothing more that they can do and just want to give up. The more
time and energy you focus on comparing your marriages or husbands to that of
other people, consciously or not telling him who he isn’t or who he needs to
be, mounting unnecessary pressure on him, the more he drifts away.
9. Acting his mother
I know it is highly damaging being a wife and a mother. But you are not his mother. If you are regularly telling your husband what’s best for him; is an excellent idea. But don’t tell him like you are his mother. Tell him as a wife please. Continuous behavior like this will make him feel he has lost his personal space, feels he is still living with his parents instead of his wife. This could also make a man feel unqualified as your protector.
10. Criticism
Frequent criticism will make your husband feel less and less of a man which will make him feel not good enough for you. And when a man starts feeling not good enough for you, there is more in his heart than you can ever know. I don’t mean you should not criticize your husband, but your praises should output your criticism. Words have the power to destroy or build anyone.
So be careful with the words you use to address your significant other. Challenge yourself to always praise your significant other for every little effort they put in. this will make them better and more productive.
11. Well planned Provoking
Do you provoke your husband
intentionally in a subtle way? Do you think he doesn’t know? Do you push his
buttons for the sake of attention and you think he is so dumb? Do you say
provocative words or use certain words he doesn’t want to hear to test his
response? Do you nag at him at the slightest opportunity? Do you compare your
next door neighbors’ husband who is handy at home with your husband who is not
and probably works 60-80 hours a week? You are sure playing with fire. Keep it
up.
Note this
formular:
Women = love
Men = respect
Respect, in all forms, speaks volumes to
a men and often results in them feeling worthy of their wife’s cares.
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11 Ways You Might Be Disrespecting Your Husband
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