Toxic relationship is characterized by giving all and getting nothing in return. When you are in love, your heart plays tricks on you. In our quest to find love, we often get into relationships that are not healthy.
Most times, our friends
and family recognize these signs that he doesn’t love you before we begin to. You
are blind folded by certain qualities or attributes you see in your partner which
may not actually mean he has them but made up. Yes made up qualities are
possible when we crave for attention and or affection.
20 signs he doesn’t love you that you
have ignored
1. Does he fight fair when you fight?
Fights!!! are
inevitable in any relationship and sometimes needed to have a stronger
relationship but it shouldn’t get nasty. Names/names calling should not be used
when fighting because feelings could really be hurt by words.
2. He picks fights with you over nothing
Some things really are
not worth fighting over. You need to value your relationship more than winning
an argument guys.
3. He threatens to leave all the time
Refer to (1) and (2) above,
if he loves you, he won’t threaten to leave you at the slightest provocation. It
is unfair to threaten your significant other with walking away as a way of
getting what you want. This could also mean manipulation.
4. He doesn’t listen when you talk about your day
If you get home from
work and want to talk about your day, does he really listen? or pretends to
listen? Does he interrupt rudely? A good way to tell if he is listening is if he actually engages with your story and asks relevant questions when
appropriate.
5. Does he ask you about your day
Possibly you have not
noticed he doesn’t ask how your day was. You may just naturally begin talking
about your day without him asking. Next time, take note: and if he doesn’t ask
about your day repeatedly, is a sure-fire sign he doesn’t love you.
6. He doesn’t make an effort to talk to you when you are apart
Life factors like jobs,
school etc can separate couples for short periods of time. During this period,
relationships could be tried. And so we make conscious effort to stay together
via proper means of communication like texting, calls and social media
platforms. So if the effort to stay connected is one-sided, then he likely
doesn’t love you.
Planning is very important in all we do. Plan about
everything from bottom to top. Both partners should have a plan about children,
retirement, living arrangement etc so if you talk to him about the future, and
he shuts down, could mean a bigger problem “he doesn’t love you”. If he loved
you, he would have you in the picture
8. He forgets about important dates
Important dates like birthdays, anniversaries, appointments etc should
not be forgotten especially if they mean a lot to your significant other.
9. He forgets about important events
Here I don’t mean birthdays or
anniversaries, I am referring to other events in your life like big meeting at
work and he forgets that it ever occurred, he’s clearly not concerned about the
big events in your life and so doesn’t love.
Relationships are about loving each other
unconditionally because of our flaws. You may wonder why. If he makes fun of
you about anything, deliberately and frequently, especially in a manner that
puts you down/hurts your emotions, he doesn’t love you.
11. They keep your relationship a secret
It is not normal to keep a relationship secret. Except
he has something up his sleeves. If he keeps your relationship a secret, both on
social media and in real-life, but doesn’t want you to keep it a secret, then
it’s one of those big red flag in relationships and a sign of a possessive man.
“He doesn’t love you”.
Relationships don’t work out on their
own. It is your responsibility to make them what you want. You must make conscious
effort to make sure it works. Love don’t just happen, people make them happen. Sometimes
it gets rough and if he doesn’t try, then he doesn’t love you.
13. He never apologize when wrong
Pride could be destructive and if his
pride is more important than your relationship, maybe you should pick up your
bag and hit the road ASAP. Apologies are difficult but they need to be done if
you truly love your significant other and want a healthy relationship.
14. He keeps you away from his family
Refer to (11), if you’ve been together
for a while, you should have met at least few of his family members else “he doesn’t
love you”
15. You have not
met his friends and he doesn’t want to meet yours
Do you know this might be more important than
meeting his family? This is because his friends and your friends can be
completely brutal and honest about who they truly are. Remember your friends
are like your eagle eye, they see little things you don’t see in the one you
love and can tell if it is a danger sign or not. This is another red flag in relationships.
16. They don’t support your dreams
I have always said relationship is partnership. What
he wants in life is important, and so is yours. For a successful relationship,
both partners must support each other’s goals and aspirations. If you seem to
give all of your support to him and receive none in return, “he doesn’t love
you”.
17. They joke about
your passions
Passions are like inner flames. They make
you who you are. If he doesn’t respect your passions, as a hair stylist etc then
he doesn’t love you.
18. You are not a
priority
If you truly love
someone, they will become your priority. If your significant other places other
things before you like his friends, etc, is a sure
sign he doesn’t love you.
19. What does his
eye say? “I love you or not”
The best sign to tell if he loves you are in his
eyes. Look him in the eyes, you will know if he loves you. There is a burning
desire in the eyes of someone looking at the person they truly love and cherish.
20. No physical sign of affection
For a healthy relationship, the place of physical affection
cannot be over emphasized. If he doesn’t hug you, hold your hand while walking,
or give you pecks and kisses when necessary, then he might not be that into
you.
Note that these signs could be difficult
to notice or agree if a friend gives you an hint when you are deeply in love,
but they are so real and can latter lead to emotional trauma when you know what
you desire and can’t just get it.
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20 Signs He Does Not Love You: 3 Will Shock You
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