How To Woo The Guy Of Your Dreams And Make Him Love You

Do you know that what attracts a girl to a guy most often is the exact opposite of what attracts a guy to a girl? Both men and women are wired in opposite directions.

In wooing your dream partner, there’re similarities to watch out for. It doesn’t have to do with sexes. But in this article, we’ll go a little deeper on how to woo the guy you dream of.

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How do I make a man fall in love with me? This might be your question because you like a guy very much and you are looking forward to him feeling the same for you. Unfortunately, it’s not happening.

He's the man of your dreams, and you adore him so much that you daydream of him all the time. Like in high school, you go tell your friends how much you love him and willing to make the first move. Only for you to see him and say “hi”, he replies with “hi” like you’re some other girl. To make it worse, he didn’t bother to stop when you said “hi”.

It could be a huge undertaking when you want to woo someone. You really don't know how it’s going to play out. Maybe it’s because you haven’t done the needful beforehand. It’s not all about beauty dear because the most beautiful girl might be the best lonely one too. Guys don’t look for beauty without some basic characteristics or features. Did I hear you say it’s not about curves? Hmm, leave that to the male folks.

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Good you’re here because in this article, you’ll learn some of the basic and probably not so basic things you can do to attract a guy and make him fall in love with you almost at first sight.

1. Smile and laugh.

This has to come first since first Impression matters a lot. When you are working on ways to woo a guy and make him fall in love with you, it is crucial to smile and laugh when necessary so you don’t look like a fool. Don’t present an unfriendly face. Be as outgoing, friendly, and social as you feel comfortable being.

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Most guys like girls with a sense of humor.  Girls who can make them feel good. Who wants to present a stone-hard face as a girlfriend? You see; NOBODY. Tell him enjoyable stories, and don't be afraid to laugh – when necessary. Keep in mind not to go overboard and look like a comedian. It is great to have a partner who is enjoyable and outgoing.

2. Don't lose hope soon.

If you truly want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful about it. Losing hope can be harmful in some ways not only in trying to win the heart of a guy, but also in all areas of our lives.

In other words, don’t lose hope on whatever you once set your heart to achieve.

Hope for the best in every area of your life but don't lose sight of reality. When pursuing a man and wanting him to fall in love with you, there are definitely two possible outcomes and they’re:

(a) He also falls in love with you or (b) He might reject your advances and whichever the case, life goes on.

When seeking the love of a guy, it’s like adventure and it’s important to be hopeful about it and remain positive.

Note: Don't hang all your hopes on getting the result you dream about. He has feelings just like you and you don’t have control over his heart.

If you’re lucky, he might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. You won't know until you make an effort to catch him. However, you should also prepare for any eventuality and outcome. If he’s not the one for you, there’s nothing you can do about that else you’ll hurt yourself. So, don't lose hope because there’ll be another man on your horizon.

3. Listen and don't just talk away.

You know the feelings when you have the opportunity to talk with this guy of your dreams and he’s willing to talk too. How energy flows like a fountain from your soul. You tend to talk and laugh uncontrollable and all of that. Yes, it’s good but best if you actually listen and not just talk and laugh so he’ll find you interesting – Nope.

The blunt truth is that some people lose control of their nerves when they’re around a potential partner and this makes them talk too much, laugh too much, do the wrong things or talk way too little trying to be careful – composure.

Girls aren't the only ones, of course. Many men do the same thing. But this is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the guy of your dreams.

When you want to please and make a man fall for you, it is important you listen and don't just talk away. Even a man who is generally not talkative will definitely have something to say; Right?

Everyone likes to be 'heard'. If you keep talking and talking all the time without giving him the chance to express himself, he's likely to be disappointed and he’ll easily shutdown – MEN. Hence making it hard for him to get a word in could lower your chances of him falling in love with you because he doesn’t want a commentator but a partner.

4. Be aware of your looks/appearance.

Did you know your looks/appearance can let you down? Your appearance can make you win or lose when it comes to walking your way into a guy’s heart. To thrill a man and make him interested in you, you should be presentable. I don’t mean going overboard by loosening the top button of your blouse and call it sexy. You might win him off course. But, what type of guy is he? Tomorrow another lady does same and voila; he’s gone.

Be aware of what you are wearing, is your fragrance appealing, is your hair clean, and if you are dressed appropriately.

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Don’t get me wrong. I know you want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you because men love good! But sex appeal doesn't mean overly bodily-hugging clothing and lots of cleavages exposure like you’ve got the best milk factory in the world and the entire universe revolves around your backside. A simple, classy dress with wind-blown hair could be just as sexy as Beyonce because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You could expose all in a bid to win him over but stink right in front of him.

I didn’t say you shouldn’t dress that way but choose your clothing and your style to match the occasion. Do your best to look as good as you can, no matter where you are going. You never know when you’ll meet Mr Right.

5. Be available by asking - what can I do for you.

It’s an act of kindness and this simple act of asking him like in our previous write-up on “how to woo the girl of your dreams” illustrate your love and support for him. But this is effective if you two are friends. It’s much easier to show such kindness since you’ve known each other.

For a complete stranger, just be kind because you just can’t tell what tomorrow holds.

6. Be yourself.

It’s most important to be yourself when trying to make a guy fall in love with you. Don’t try to be someone else when it comes to personality and character. If you are pretending to be different to your true self when trying to woo a guy, you are not doing yourself any good.

By trying not to be yourself, you are clearly telling him that you are not comfortable with yourself and that is a form of deception most people take lightly. Most guys will easily notice this and quickly become disinterested.

You might be able to keep the fake identity for awhile weeks, months, or even years. But sooner or later you'll be tired of hiding your true identity and he'll finally get tired of trying to figure out who you truly are, what you really like, and when you are actually being true to yourself.

Note ladies: If you have a high-powered job, don't play the dumb about it – let him know. Yes, you might not tell him on the first date but it shouldn’t take forever before telling him.

Dear, if you don’t like high heels, don't sweat it. You two need to talk about that everything you need to talk about.

Very important - You have children – You should mention this up front.

When a man falls madly in love with you, you want that love to last, so be yourself right from the start.

7. Don’t be selfish.

One of the things that differentiate you from other girls is not being selfish. You have to give, and not just take, to increase your chances of him falling in love with you. Giving doesn’t mean spending your life’s savings on him. There’s a thin line between a gold digger and true love and a man with common sense can easily differentiate between this two. He easily recognizes a girl who wants something from him, and one who cares for him.

 
There are girls who are after money (gold diggers). Do yourself some good and differentiate yourself from the typical gold diggers all over the place and let him see you are interested in him for his love and not his money.

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8. Don’t be available always.

It’s good to be available and give a helping hand when necessary. On the other hand, don’t be available always. Let him put some effort if he finds you interesting. If you keep chasing a guy while he is going on with his activities like you don’t exist, you'll likely be perceived as desperate.

Let him make advances towards you. Guys enjoy the thrill of the chase. Catch his eye and his attention, and then let him work a little to win you over – don’t keep him hanging for long.

Once a guy notice how much he misses you when you are not around, he’ll suspects he's falling in love with you, and will definitely do something to get you. So, It’s a win-win.

9. Know and understand what he does.

Some ladies take this for granted. They don’t know how powerful this simple act could be. Get to know and understand what he does. This could dramatically increase your chances of winning his love. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does even if they sound stupid.

With reference to #5, ask him if he needs help to accomplish a task. If he sees you are interested in his plans/what he does, he will see that you care for him and that you could be a good partner.

10. Have patience and don’t push him.

Patience is a virtue. We all don’t move at same pace. This is why you need to have patience and don’t be push him hard to make important decisions hence, you’ll face the consequences soon.

Be patient and go slow when trying to woo a man. Don’t expect him to fall in love or say yes to your advances almost immediately.
Most guys will need time to decide whether to enter into a relationship with you or not. If he likes you, he will make it obvious. But don’t ever push him to make a quick decision on whether he likes you or not. You might not like the result.

11. Be different from other girls.

An advertisement I heard on radio “the taste is the difference, the difference is the taste”. Per adventure you noticed that many women are competing for his attention and are trying very hard to make him fall in love with them which it isn’t their fault, differentiation is the only thing that will definitely give you the cutting edge.

Give or show him substantial or insubstantial evidences to suggest that you are the best option for him. Get into his heart/mind and not with your skirt down please! You’ll see a real man come knocking.

12. Don’t be too possessive and too protective.

Most women make the mistake of being too possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them. What is that? When this is the case, she may try to protect him from other women so that she remains the only woman in his life hence, you become too protective too.

This strategy is prone to failure because every man is scared of being caged by a woman who is too possessive capped by over protection. They feel choked and can’t stand the pressure for long.

Allow him some space to decide on what’s best for him. If you are the one for him, he will eventually fall in love with you.

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13. What does your moral say?

If you want a decent guy, you must be decent. You can’t say you want a guy with good behavior that can trust you, etc when you have zero level or amount of what you seek.

Have good morals. Good morals are a necessity in convincing a real man to love you. Note (real man). Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can't be trusted, yet you want a trustworthy guy.

Men easily fall in love with women who are disciplined too. Behave maturely towards him and at the same time, respect him, just as you expect him to respect you.

14. Understand yourself.

With reference to #6, know your own real needs and distinguish them from other people's expectations. The problem with most ladies is that they don’t understand themselves and if you don’t understand yourself, how on earth will you understand another person?

Be honest with yourself about your faults because this is the best way to become a better person and you need to meet someone who will find your faults minor and forgivable but prize your strengths so you could be a better version of you.

Being aware of your flaws, and being ready to address them, will make you more ready to address the issues that arise in a relationship.

15. Don't expect perfection because you’re not perfect.

Count yourself lucky if you find it. But, admit it early and accept you're not perfect too. We’re all working to be better us daily.

Most ladies shut the door to the guy next to them because they're looking for a 100% perfect man seen in the movies. Dear, you might never find him.

So be quick to forgive those little mistakes or annoying habits that don't matter, and hopefully he’ll overlook your imperfections and love you too.

Dear, if you can't stand a forgetful man, you may have to search elsewhere to find one who never forgets an anniversary etc. meanwhile, you could help him remember if you choose to.

If you expect perfection from the onset, you'll be too quick and might not be able to see whether the man in front of you is right for you after all.

If you turn down a guy who doesn't meet all the criteria on your perfect man checklist, you may be overlooking some amazing qualities you didn't even know existed.

16. Be happy alone.

Funny right? But true. Guys can smell happy lady from a distant. Goodness! Who wishes to be with some sad sister? With reference to #1, smile and laugh please, thank you.

If you want to be ready to find the man of your dreams, then you have to be satisfied with your own company first. Don’t be part of the school of thought who believe the myth of finding the man who completes you or makes you whole; rather you should feel like a fulfilled, well-rounded being, whose life will be improved by the presence of the right man, but not completed. Was your life halved?

You should have enough meaning in your own life -- through your friendships, work, etc to make you a person who is happy on her own but ready for commitment.

If you spend all of your free time with friends and family, you are much likely to be co-dependent.

If you enjoy your own company, you will also be a more fun person to meet, because you'll be excited to talk about all the things that matter to you.

17. Be the man you want to date/marry.

Have you ever asked yourself what kind of person am I attracted to? What kinds of traits does he have to have? To attract the kind of person you like, you have to have those traits too or similar to those traits so you can easily complement one another.

In other word, look at traits that are complementary - if you're very domestic, you may be happier with a man who doesn’t mess-up your kitchen but never tired of cleaning the gutters or just staying indoors with you.

If you like surfing the web and always on social media, you don’t want to get involve with a guy from stone age and when you say “honey, please turn on your hotspot”, He’d ask “is that a new Tv series”?

18. Compliment him.

If you really want to know how to woo a guy, start by telling him how truly cool he is. Compliments are always a better way to start a conversation and it’s one of the best ways to leave a guy smiling and at same time, have you in his thought all day long just like ladies do.

19. Give him a call and ask how his day went.

I’ve said this before that all it takes is a little care and attention. Asking him how his day was and really listening to him shows you’re interested in what’s going on with him and that you truly care.

20. Are you compatible?

With reference to #17, this is very important for the survival of your relationship. He may look great on paper or looks, but you should also be compatible when you're together. This means laughing easily, having great conversations without hardly ever running out of things to talk about, being able to get through a day, week or months together without fighting every single seconds.

You can’t force compatibility, but it should be something you can look out for.

21. Show some confidence.

Confidence is key. Without confidence, you risk being left behind. If you want a guy to like you, you need to have a sense of confidence in yourself that will ultimately make you approach him without fearing or sensing any danger. I don’t mean asking him out but if you have courage to do so, why not? Go ahead and ask him out.

Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. You're a good person with very special qualities. Be confident that you are worthy of being loved!

Being confident doesn’t mean you’re proud except you let it get into your head and this will make guys say hi to the girl standing next to you.

  

If you can be true to yourself and demonstrate all these types of qualities, your perfect match will definitely fall in love with you!

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