We have all fallen victim to erroneous thinking. Sometimes we use it on purpose to make ourselves feel better about making a bad choice. Well, defiant children know how to use them too. However, if their errors in thinking are not challenged, they hold onto them and this can be detrimental later in life.
The Mind of a Child
Children don’t see things the same way that parents do.
Without the benefit of years of experience, they act on emotion and instinct.
They want what they want and don’t mind using negative tactics to get it from
you. It’s all about them. Instead of evaluating a situation to see all sides,
they only consider how they feel.
Children with mental disorders like Oppositional Defiant
Disorder can get caught in a bad cycle. They start acting on these thinking
errors and things spiral out of control from there. As long as you feed into
their way of thinking with your behavior, they will continue to manipulate,
yell, scream, and terrorize everyone around them. The solution is to get help.
4 Thinking Errors
Parents of Defiant Children should be Aware of
The road to healing is long and hard. As parents, you are
required to do a lot of the heavy lifting. The first step is to understand your
children. Know how they think and what they do to get their way.
1- “Injustice” stance
This is the thought that the entire world is against them.
When things don’t go their way, then nothing is fair and they shouldn’t have to
comply. This means that if they decide that school sucks, they don’t feel they
should get up and go in the morning no matter what you say. In some ways, a defiant
child can also be passive-aggressive by moving slowly so that they will have no
other option but to get their way and stay home.
2- “Pride in
Negativity” stance
Kids always think that they know more than their parents.
Defiant kids are great for needling their parents with things that they know
that their parents aren’t aware of. They could say they learned how to steal or
about drugs or about mature video games that they shouldn’t even be playing.
It’s nothing for them to tell their parents that they don’t know what they are
talking about to make you feel stupid or that they have “one up” on you.
3- “Dishonesty”
stance
Kids do lie and will continue if they are not caught and the
situation dealt with. Defiant kids use lying, telling half-truths, and keeping
secrets to deny that they have been caught in bad behavior. They may even mix
some truth into the story to make it seem more plausible.
4- “Victim” stance
This is a jewel in their crown. They always blame someone
else for what happens to them or for what they do. Even if they are the
aggressor, it is the other person’s fault that they had to say or do something
bad to them.
Recognize the methods that defiant kids use to justify their
behavior. Teach them to change their way of thinking.
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