There is no strong part of a relationship when trust is gone. Trust can be referred to as the foundation stone that holds everything together in a relationship. Without it, the other part of the relationship crumbles gradually.
It’s
really not easy for trust to come by. This five letter word is so much
important and powerful in our everyday life and yet, easily broken. Nearly
everyone is careful about whom they trust because they don’t want to go through
the pain of distrust and once someone breaks that trust, they don’t get it back
easily.
Getting
trusted again could take days and sometimes a very long time - years.
It’s
joyful to know if or not our partners truly trust us. If your partner really
trusts you, it automatically rules out relationship anxiety that could
originate from distrust and it paves the way for the relationship to become
stronger each day.
Probably
you don’t have the trust of your partner, know there’re things to work on like
your attitude towards others, how you relate with the opposite sex etc.
In
my opinion, asking your partner if they trust you could be insignificant
because they can give you the answer you want to hear which is a ‘yes’ just for
them to have their peace. So why ask? It can also be viewed as being
manipulative especially if the question keeps popping up every now and then
when they suspect something fishy.
There’re
hidden clues that point if your partner trust you or not and these clues are easier
to uncover than it seems!
Between
the actions and inactions of a man, you’ll know if you have his trust or not!
Here
are the signs to tell if he trusts her
1.
He recognizes her
personal space and gives it to her
Who
likes being stalked? You feel choked sometimes when you don’t have your space.
It’s really needed for a healthy relationship. Give your partner some
space/time to be with the boys/girls.
When
your partner does trust you, they’ll give you space to be you. You’ll be free
to go about your life without them keeping disturbing tab or surveillance over
your affairs.
If
he loves you, he won’t feel nervous when you’re not with him and suspects that
you’re up to something. Hence, he’s less likely to be all over you all day
checking who commented on your timeline, who liked your photos, calling to ask
your friends if they’re with you cause you told him you’ll be at Vivian’s.
So
if he’s giving you space to be you, it’s a good sign that he does trust you and
you on the other hand shouldn’t take that for granted!
2.
When your opinion is
important to him
With
reference to #3, it’s a good sign that he does have faith in you and your
opinion is a great deal if he doesn’t only seek out your physical help but also
your advice and opinions regarding his personal issues and that of the
relationship.
This
shows that he trusts your judgments and also he thinks you’re wise. If you
don’t trust someone, you won’t value their opinion as much, and certainly
wouldn’t go to the effort of asking for it, right?
It’s
sweet if he always asks what you think about things that affect him directly and
what you would do if you were in his circumstance. So be thankful he turns to
you for your thoughts and don’t take that for granted!
3.
If he seeks her out when
he needs help
With
reference to #2, guys rarely ask a lady for help and if he does, it’s a good
sign he trusts you by asking for your advice or physical help and favors.
When
a guy asks for help, it points that he sees you as a reliable person and trusts
you to be there for him and lend him a hand.
On
the other hand, some guys take advantage of this sign and end up using the
lady. So, make sure he’s not taking advantage of you because being trusted to
help is flattering!
4. If he appreciates her for being
there
With
reference to #3, if he shows how grateful he is that you always got his back
could
be a positive sign he truly trusts you.
This
also connotes that he finds you really supportive and reliable.
Reliability
brings trustworthiness. Hence, when someone proves that they can be relied upon,
they’re usually trustworthy people. Though he might say thank you just once or
quite often, the fact remains that he think of you as trustworthy.
5. He’s never had to confront her about
lies
It’s
easier to win a person’s trust when you’ve got a good track record with them.
Generally,
you’ve got a higher chance of earning a person’s trust if you’ve never lied to them
about anything important either in the past or present.
So,
if he’s had to confront you about not telling him the truth in the past,
there’s a higher chance that he might expect the same behavior from you now or
in the future and feel reluctant to trust you even when you tell him you’re
being honest.
Though
this doesn’t mean you can’t ever redeem your trust. But it’s much harder to do
than if you never get caught in first place!
With
reference to #5, trust is something built over time. We’re more likely to trust
the faces we’ve known for longer period over the newer faces. Except the new
faces are able to prove beyond doubt they could be trusted.
Note
that knowing someone for a very long time doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re
trustworthy and if you’ve proven to him that he can’t trust you in the past, it
will probably take him a long time to get over that. So how long you’ve known him
might not make much of a difference at this point.
Be
trustworthy and build every relationship on trust if you truly desire something
out of it.
7. If jealousy isn’t a problem in the
relationship
You’ll
be surprised to know there’s healthy jealousy and unhealthy one. Unhealthy
jealousy is one resulting from insecurity from either partner.
Most
relationships have a small amount of jealousy in them which can be said to be
healthy, and this type isn’t a problem. When your partner gets harmlessly
jealous, it actually shows that they care enough about you to want you to
themselves.
If
jealousy is causing serious problems in the relationship, then it lacks trust.
Your
partner can be jealous of you at times when another man stirs at you, but it
doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s an issue with jealousy in your relationship
when you’ve proved beyond doubt that he can trust you.
Hence,
if jealousy isn’t an issue in the relationship, there’s a good chance that they
trust you.
8. He loves your friends
It’s
always a good feeling to see your partner accept your friends. Not everyone is
cool with their partner’s friend.
Accepting
your friends is a great deal when it comes to trusting you. So accepting your
friends could mean he trusts you. Guys don’t love their partner’s friends when
they feel they’re having negative influence on them or as a result of negative
jealousy.
Take
note if he loves your friends and encourages you to spend time with them, means
he trusts you and appreciates them being in your life for good.
9. He lets you see him at his most awful
moments
Obviously,
some people see this phase of a relationship as the end of romance whereas; it
could be an all new level of romance and openness in the relationship.
So,
take it as a compliment if your boyfriend allows you to see him at his most awful moments because not everyone can
go this far.
This
new level shows that he’s gone beyond the point of trying really hard to
impress you and he trusts you to accept him the way he is else he wouldn’t have
let you see him that way.
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9 Subtle Signs He Truly Trusts Her
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