There are some basic emotional needs in a relationship that need to be met for it to be successful. All form of relationship, be it a romantic or non-romantic relationship are built on emotions.
When these emotional needs in a relationship are met, you feel a connection with someone and that grows to develop into deeper relationship.
These emotions grow from like, to love and to trust.
These things then become a part of your daily life. You respect each other and
listen to each other.
Distrust, resentment, and disrespect are some of the
things that can arise when couples’ emotional needs are not met.
What
are emotional needs in a relationship?
Emotional needs differ for everyone. What some
people need, others may not and vice versa. Emotional needs in a relationship
are not just things you need from your partner, but what you give each other. These
are not just things like trust, respect, and communication.
Read: How To Build Emotional Intimacy In A New Relationship
Emotional needs are essential requirements for you
in order to feel fulfilled and satisfied with your relationship. And these will
be different for everyone.
For instance, I couldn’t be happy in a relationship
without feeling valued. My #1 emotional need is value when we are together or
apart. I need to know I am valued in a relationship.
Emotional needs are often created from past
relationships, environment or from our childhood experiences.
For instance, if you were abandoned by a parent at a
young age, one of your emotional needs may be independence.
Emotional needs in a relationship are what keep both
partners happy together.
Here
are the 9 important emotional needs in relationships:
1. Trust.
The place of trust in a relationship cannot be over emphasized. Every relationship requires trust to function healthily. Trust does not just happen in a relationship. But needs to be nurtured and taken care of over time.
Read: How to Build Trust in Relationships
Trust is an emotional need because without it both partners can feel
resentful, jealous, skeptical, suspicious, etc.
Read: 9 Subtle Signs He Truly Trusts Her
Distrust in a relationship leads to emotional stress/trauma.
Read: 10 Subtle Signs He Doesn't Trusts Her
2.
Intimacy.
Relationships are
different, but a certain level of intimacy is required in all of them. Whether
it means cuddling on the sofa or just sharing a hug is something every romantic
relationship need to last.
When you see an elderly
couple that has been together for 40+ years still flirting with one another and
holding hands, that is intimacy. When you crawl out of bed and your boyfriend
pulls you back just for one more kiss, is intimacy. These are the things that
keep the spark alive.
3. Attention.
As humans, we all seek
attention one way or the other. It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert or an extrovert,
we all seek attention someway, especially in a romantic relationship. You want
to know that your partner is giving you undivided attention. This shows that
they care about you and are making you a priority.
Read: Trust in Relationships-The Journey of Love
Read: Techniques for Listening in Your Relationships
In healthy relationships, both partners need to be
able to be themselves in order to be fulfilled.
Emotional needs like security or safety come with
time. You should be able to relax and turn off around your partner without fear
of judgment. In other words, be yourself.
Yes, every relationship require companionship. It
isn’t all about passion and sparks all the time. Healthy relationships are
built on shared and enjoyed company. Companionship is a human need we all
crave.
You want to have human interaction whether it is
deep insightful conversations, jokes, or silently sitting together watching TV.
6. Shared power.
I know that power is a dicey word when it comes to
relationships. People talk about who has the most power, but in this case, I
mean shared power. The emotional need of power in relationships means you feel
you have a say in decision making and you actually do.
Most people need to feel that their opinion matters
and that they have some control over what they do together. Without that,
relationships can easily become one-sided and eventually become dysfunctional
leading to separation.
7. Value.
Knowing you’re important to your partner is fundamental
in a relationship. You know how you feel about them right? but it is also an
emotional need in a relationship to understand your value. You have to know
your place is important to your partner.
This can be offered with a simple thank you. Most of
us need to know our partner appreciates us for what we do.
8. Privacy.
An emotional need of most relationships is privacy. Some
people think once you’re in a relationship, there’s noting like privacy
anymore, but that’s not true. In most cases, you cannot have privacy without
trust and vice versa. The thing about trust is that it isn’t all about
communication but it thrives on faith.
Privacy is a part of independence and individuality
in a relationship and you need privacy for that.
9. Commitment.
We all have our own definition for Commitment. Some
commit while keeping things open and others believe in monogamy. There is no
wrong or right way to commit in a relationship, but commitment is usually
something all relationships need.
It can be considered an obligation but mostly,
commitment is an equal level of agreed-upon dedication to each other.
Commitment is an emotional need in a relationship, and without it, there won’t
be any healthy/successful relationship.
The above listed emotional needs are vital to the
health and happiness of everyone involved in a relationship. If you can make sure
these needs are met and prioritized, a relationship can be an unending source
of joy.
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