How To Get A Shy Guy To Like And Ask You Out

 Are you falling for a shy guy who’s too shy to ask you out? Use the following steps to get him to like you and ask you out in no time. Shy guys can be a pain in the back side – smiles…

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Shy guys are always cute and they seem nice. But they’re so hard to read that it can annoy any girl who falls for them. And the worst part is that a shy guy may like you a lot and still won’t do anything about it even if you make the first move.

He may tell a few friends that he fancies you and if you are lucky, those friends will in turn tell you about how he feels about you and yet he just doesn’t ask you out.

Before making move on a shy guy, you need to be sure about his feelings for you. Be very sure he really likes you.

If you are sure he likes you, then you need to focus on getting his attention.

And once he starts to notice you often, exchange eye contact with him now and then.

Make him feel comfortable about exchanging glances and looking at you frequently. Stare at him often, but not in an intimidating way. Rather, do it  in a girly way and as soon as you catch his eye, look away and smile to yourself.

Displaying your shy side will make him feel more comfortable with the idea of approaching and talking to you.

Types of shy guys:

There are basically two types of shy guys. Firstly, the kind that’s too shy to talk to you. And secondly, the kind that’s comfortable enough to talk to you, but is too shy to ask you out.

You can use these steps to get a shy guy talking in no time. All that is needed is patient and give him more time to warm up to you especially if you’re trying to win the attention of the first kind of shy guy.

Here are the steps to get a shy guy to like you and ask you out

Are you still eager to date a shy guy after knowing just how tough it can be to get a shy guy to open up to you and start dating you? If yes, patiently use the following steps to get a shy guy to ask you out.

1. Text him.

If you want to get a shy guy to reveal his confident side, just send him a nice text. There’s nothing easier than texting a shy guy. A shy guy may feel awkward to talk to you in person, but when you text him, he’d communicate better with you in no time and he’ll get really close to you too.

From research, those that are shy prefer to communicate behind the screen. This could be their laptop or phone. They are more active on social media than attending social gatherings.

And once the texting feels more comfortable, you could even start calling him over the phone. You’ll find that he won’t be as shy as you assumed him to be and soon, he’ll start calling you too.

2. Body language.

The way you behave around your friends and other people plays a big part in the way the shy guy perceives you. And the more bullying you appear, the deeper into his shell he’ll go.

You have to appear friendly, warm and approachable; especially when he’s around if you want to encourage him to approach you. Sometimes, even pretending to be a shy girl can make him feel better and willing to approach you.

3. Tell him something nice.

We all like to hear something nice about ourselves. We unconsciously crave for nice compliments from others.

In the middle of a conversation with him, look towards him and say something nice like “I like being with you”, “I like talking to you” or “you understand me so well”. It’ll make him fall in love with you.

4. Hang out with him.

Whenever you get the opportunity, preferably when no one else is around, just the two of you. Don’t be too pushy and don’t drag him away each time he’s with his friends. Shy guys do have egos that can swell up and take you for granted if he notice you always drag him away from his friends.

Try to find circumstances when he’s alone and spend a while with him.

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5. Amaze him the way he likes.

As shy as a guy may be, he still wants to appear like he’s in control of the situation and this is why most shy guys avoid talking to girls because they’re afraid of losing control. So if you want to make him feel good about himself and fall for you at the same time, make him believe he’s in control.

6. Appear good and interesting.

The easiest way to get a shy guy to ask you out is by sending the right hints. Glance at him now and then, especially when his friends are around. Keep yourself busy and let him and all his friends see that you have a happy life of your own.

When his friends start to believe that you’re a great girl, they’ll see you as a great dating potential too. And as soon as the shy guy’s friends notice you glancing at him, they’d start goading him to approach you or ask you out. They see how awesome you are and they’ll turn into your evangelists and persuade the shy guy that you’re a great catch.

7. Use your hands.

If you want to make a guy fall for you, nothing works better than the subtle, flirty art of touch. As you sit down next to him, find an excuse to touch him now and then. Make sure it’s not obvious and almost accidental. And before you know it, he’ll be craving for your touch.

8. Don’t push it.

Once you do get introduced to him through a “ friend” which is usually the easiest and maybe the only way to meet a shy guy, don’t try too hard to get to know him fast.

Talk to him, but don’t get pushy. Shy guys aren’t good conversationalists on a one-on-one, even if they may be great boyfriends. They need some time to warm up and you have to give them that time.

When you’re introduced to him, talk to him for a few minutes, and when things start to feel awkward because he has nothing to say, smile warmly at him, tell him you’d like to talk to him again sometime, and path ways. You can fix a date for your next meeting.

9. Compliments him often.

Most that are timid are usually characterized by pretty low self esteem. So, if you want to make him think of you lovingly, compliment him now and then. It’ll make him feel better about himself and most importantly, your compliment will linger in his mind for a long time.

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10. The perfect chat with a shy guy.

The shy guy you like may want to talk to you, but unfortunately, he may not know what to say because his mind goes into overdrive and his heart starts beating fast each time you walk up to him.

To make it easier for him to talk to you, ask him open ended questions, the kind of questions that just can’t be answered with a yes or a no. It’ll make it easier for him to talk, and yet, he’ll realize he’s the one doing most of the talking, which will make him feel more confident around you.

11. Ask him for help.

Guys love helping a damsel in distress. Ask the shy guy to help you with something, be it carrying a few books for you, or to help you look for something, or to accompany you for lunch because you need some company. He’ll feel too awkward to decline, and eventually accompany you. And that’ll give you the perfect opportunity to bond with him while making him feel like your knight in shining armor.

12. Ask him out at the right opportunity.

Ask him out, but make it appear like it was his idea. It’ll make him feel good about himself, and help him become more confident around you.

You: So… which was the last restaurant you’ve been to?

Shy guy: *says something*

You: Gosh, I love that restaurant. I’ve always wanted to go there!

Shy guy: Oh yeah…? hmmm… *awkward smile*

You: Let me know the next time you go there. I’d love to come with you.

By using a conversation like this one, you’re giving the guy the permission to ask you out, and yet, he’s still the one who finally has to ask you out, which would make him feel better about himself too.

13. Go on dates together.

After your first date together, don’t put any pressure on getting him to tell you that he likes you. Pan a few more dates, and this time around, you can ask him out on a date too. And once both of you actually start dating, you can always tell him that you really like him at the opportune moment, or wait for him to say those lines to you.

Read: Why Are Date Nights So Important

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