To Cheat Or Not To Cheat: 9 Guide To Help You Decide

Temptations are all around us, it’s in the air we breathe, on the streets, at work, it is just everywhere you go and it’s easy to have some moment with a complete stranger without getting caught.

To cheat or not to cheat, that’s the question. Though we’ve heard that severally. But what should you really do when faced with this sweet temptation.

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To cheat or not to cheat, that is so much a big question many want to sit on the fence. The truth is, it’s not a question in the real sense but a nagging thought that crawls into your conscience whenever you’re given the opportunity to get into someone else’s bed/panties.

So should you cheat or do all you can and resist the temptation?

First thing first: Understanding the temptation:

You need to understand why the temptation? Because you know the answer to the question already and it’s: Don’t cheat!

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But in this article, I’m not going to tell you to cheat or not, just read along.

Cheat if you must. Don’t cheat if you can. You like that right? But at the end of the day, it’s you that has to evaluate it and understand the real difference.

Have you ever cheated on your partner? If you haven’t, you should know that once you do without being caught, you’ll never really be able to forget about it. You may be able to put the thought away, but it’ll always haunt you for as long as you stay in the relationship. And if you’ve cheated already, you’ve been there. But how do you feel about it now? Feeling great about yourself?

Facts about Cheating:

1. Cheating is fun and very easy.

Cheating is fun and easy with such a sexy rush plus the adrenalin that comes with it. With the hectic lives we lead these days, it’s really easy to cheat on your partner or have an affair and get away with it.

If you’ve been naughty conversations or flirting with someone outside the relationship for a while, and the flirting turns to petting and even phone sexing, it’s only a matter of time before hands start slipping inside each other’s panties. And when it does happen, the experience could be one of the best you’ve ever had in your entire life. And the very best part is that you get away with it.

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2. Falling in love with someone else – so you think.

Some affairs are purely sexual and some, well, they can get rather complicated. It all starts with a bit of flirting and long conversations. And then you convince yourself to start to believe you’re in love with someone else.

If you do cheat and get into their bed or even exchange a kiss, it may remind you of everything that’s missing in your own relationship, the affection, the weak knees, and all those happy feelings.

Here is to cheat…

Let’s admit it for ones, cheating is fun. Imagine the sexual attraction that builds up before you actually do anything with your secret lover, is even more fun.

With all the happy lights flowing out of every jaws of cheating, cheating on a partner seems like a fun thing to do right? I could even advice you to go for it and have a wonderful time, and just don’t get caught.

But now is where we look at the other side of this joyful story on cheating - it ends with an orgasm

3. It ends with an orgasm.

In almost all cases, you cheat because of the sexual excitement, the rush for it is killing. You just want to do it, like a hungry lion finally having a feast. You guys may have worked out the perfect time and place, and finally you find yourself in bed, naked and sweaty, and so full of passion it makes you go blind with horniness, oh my goodness, you just got to cloud 9..., but it just ended. You’re done. Finally you can breathe.

It may feel really good, but it will end just as soon as you orgasm. Isn’t that the final bus stop or destination of your weeks or months of nurturing and building the excitement, but as soon as you orgasm, it’ll all come to a grinding halt. You know how it feels when you suddenly step on the brakes?

4. Your memory is back.

And if you do love your partner, whether you want to or not, you’re going to remember them just moments after reaching cloud nine and suddenly hit the flour. And it’s not always a happy thought. In almost all cases, you’ll be consumed with a devastating sense of guilt even if you push that thought away.

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5. Is it worth it?

To cheat or not to cheat? There’s only one answer to that question. You do want to cheat and that’s why the thought keep popping.

Cheating on a partner gives you a high that a drug addiction may give you (hard drug). You’ll hate it as soon as you do it. But a day or two later, you’d want it again. There’s no escaping out of an affair, unless one of you start to get uninterested or lose the sexual craze.

It’s such a little thing, an orgasm, and you’re willing to throw your loving relationship of months or years away just to experience an orgasm with someone else. Is it really worth it? Throwing away your loving relationship over excitement for some minutes. You decide.

Here is to not to cheat

6. If only I could turn back time.

Again, is it worth it? Cheating on a partner and getting away is pretty easy if you’re smart right? But that memory of cheating will always exist. And almost all cheaters say the same thing… if only I could turn back time.

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It may seem like fun, but once it’s all done and a few months have passed by, you’ll feel stupid about it even if you aren’t caught. And every time you think about it, you’ll realize how much happiness you could have gotten out of your own relationship if you could have devoted the same time and energy on your own partner.

7. How would you feel if your partner were in your shoes?

Now I’m not trying to take you on a guilt trip, but you need to think about it all before you make up your mind on cheating. How would you feel if you found out that your partner has been cheating on you? Think about it twice or even thrice.

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Imagine how angry and disgusted you would feel if you could hear those words that are exchanged in the heat of the lusty moment? Would you ever forgive your partner or forget the words they spoke?

Then relate that feeling and thoughts to what would happen if you get caught?

You may have been very careful to erase all the signs of the affair. No late night texts/calls, no phone calls/text at all, no social media messages, etc while abiding on a set rule: meet only at lunch hours, after closing hours, etc.

But luck is funny or should I say karma is a B.TCH? And somehow, your partner get to know that you cheated on them. How would they react? Your loving relationship may end for ever, and even if it doesn’t end, it’ll never ever be the same unless a miracle holds both of you together.

So, is it worth it?

Before you cheat on your partner, ask yourself if you’re ready to lose your relationship for an orgasm. It is like losing your birthright over a cup of coffee.

8. Cheating without cheating.

If you truly value your relationship, DON’T CHEAT. Those few minutes of sex and orgasms are just not worth it. Think about it.

If you do want to bring more pleasure and fun into your sex life, look for ways to keep the relationship exciting. You could fantasize with your partner.

If you and your partner trust each other, learn to be honest about each other’s sexual interests and talk about it while having sex. Talk about your fantasies even if it involves another person. It’ll help you get over the obsession and bring both of you closer too.

9. End the relationship.

Sexual frustration and the urge to cheat on a lover can at times ruin perfectly happy relationships. If you see no way to keep the love alive, then end the relationship instead of cheating and breaking your partner’s heart. Make up your mind on the way forward and stick with your decision.

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So, should you cheat or not cheat? Avoid cheating and look for ways to bring that excitement into your own relationship in a manner that can keep both of you happy.

To cheat or not to cheat? Well, always remember to consider what you’d gain and what you could lose before jumping into another bed. You know your options now. Think about it and make up your own mind.

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