Relationships is all about compromises, but there're compromises you don't need to tangle with.
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1. You find it hard to say 'no' to others because you care a lot.
It is never a crime to say 'no' to people if you do not feel comfortable with their request or you have other needs to be met. This include your partner. You should not feel bad when you tell your partner 'no', just ensure you do it in love. Don't make them feel they are a pain in the *ss.
You can as well tell them you will attend to them shortly and this should be when you're done with that important thing you're doing so they don't feel bad too.
2. You cry when alone but don’t share it with anyone cause you worry what they might think.
You're so wrong dear. There should be at least one person you can confined in. Remember that problem shared is half solved already. Don't hesitate to share your feelings with someone.
Depression is on the high because people don't speak out all in the fear of how they'll perceive you.
Dear, if you fall into deep depression today, those people you are worried about what they might think or say about you, they're the ones that will still blame you for not seeking help from friends or from professionals.
3. You are very nice to people and treat them kindly, hoping they will do the same for you.
That's a wrong notation to treat people nicely with the expectation that they'll treat you nicely too. You don't show kindness with that kind of mindset else you'd always be disappointed.
Be kind to people but don't expect the same treatment from those people. The one that will show you kindness isn't the one you shown kindness. Let kindness be a part of you.
4. You assume everyone is your friend and want to help them.
With reference to #3, it is very okay to help people you meet on your way to the mail, in the train, at work, etc. But note that you must be ready to say 'NO' when it is necessary.
You cannot be a 'YES' person always. There're times you need to pause and ask yourself 'what are you really doing'? How has your friends helped you too? Are they there for you when you need them the most?
Note that it is not everyone you meet on the street you can call a friend.
Again, help those you can help and never take the blame for those you couldn't help.
5. You like to solve problems for others but you still end up feeling all alone.
With reference to #3 & #4, solving problems for people is a part of your hobby but you do so with a mind set of gathering them to yourself (friends), you go all out hoping deep within you not to lose them so you don't get lonely. But you still lose them and you even feel deeply lonely because you tied your happiness to only helping people.
No one should think helping people will make them not to leave you. A true friend isn't one who is there for you because you only help. What if you stopped helping?
I don't mean you should stop helping people, but that is not a sure way of dealing with loneliness. Get out of the house and have fun. Do what you really love doing.
Go to the gym and get sweaty, go take a dive, hike if you can, just do what will give you happiness from within while making new friends too and go into a healthy relationship. Muah!!!.
6. You care about others, understand how they feel, and always ready to help.
With reference to #5, it is not a bad idea to be readily available to give a helping hand when needed, the problem is 'are you taken for granted'? Does the person you're concerned for really value you? It becomes worrisome if after awhile you realize they don't value your effort an inche.
7. You don’t know when you're being used because you'd never do that to someone else.
It is annoying when we finally realize we were just being used by those we call friends and others. It feels like we've been betrayed by the entire world.
So even when helping out, ensure to watch out for signs of been used so you don't fall for their scheme.
8. You can’t hurt others on purpose because you are so gentle.
This is actually cute because it is evil to hurt people on purpose. Anyone that does that needs urgent phychological check.
9. You find it hard to share your feelings without becoming emotional.
10. You notice even small changes in how people act towards you, but you don’t speak up about it.
When you notice this and you do nothing about it by speaking up about it yet become angry about it all is a clear sign that you're too emotional.
You need to work on your emotions so they don't get on the way of your personal growth.
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10 Ways To Know You Are Too Emotional
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